I had been talking to this guy for about 3-4 months before I even met him. I had ‘met’ him off Tinder. Super hilarious man. I really enjoyed talking to him. He had just gotten out of a very serious relationship and I knew he was on the rebound. That’s ok. I still talked to him. He told me about his dates, I told him about mine. Nothing crazy.

It wasn’t until football season that we decided to actually meet each other for the first time. I went over to his house and we watched football and talked. I think we were both surprised that we were actually way more attracted to each other than we were anticipating. We went to Chipotle after the game for dinner and continued to banter like old friends. When I left for the night he kissed me goodbye.

A few days later he called to ask me if I would like to join him and a colleague who was in town for dinner and drinks. Of course, I accepted. I showed up at his house and us three walked into the city for dinner. Everything was going great. It wasn’t until after dinner that his phone started to ring. Constantly. After the 4th time it rang I finally just told him to answer it and that me and his friend would meet him inside the next bar. He was outside on the phone for a long time. I knew something was up. When he hung up he came inside and told us that he was going to have to call it a night and head home. We said goodbye to his friend and then we both walked back to his place.

On the walk back he started to explain that it was his ex who had been calling him. I found it strange that it had been months since they had broken up and he still felt obligated to answer her phone calls. Apparently she was driving one of his cars (why?) and he thought something had happened to it. I told him that I understood and that it was ok (even though it wasn’t). Anyways, he walked me to my car and we said our goodbyes for the night.

The next morning I got a text message from his EX GIRLFRIEND. Apparently she went over to his house after I left so she could get a few of her things. They started talking and she ended up staying the night. When he left for work the next morning, she got on his iPad, pulled my number from it and texted me. This girl is CRAZY. I don’t have the original texts anymore. But it went something like this, “This is _______. I’m his ex girlfriend. He is not ready to date anyone right now. He is in a very bad place and is confused about what he wants in life. It’s not fair that you are taking advantage of him right now when he is so vulnerable. How could anyone do that?! I think you should stop texting him. He needs to be around his friends and family right now. Not going out with some random girl like you. He doesn’t need a girl in his life right now.” I laughed SO HARD when she texted me. All I had done was kissed this guy! If she only knew how many women he had slept with since they had broken up… Haha! It was unreal. Is that considered bat-shit crazy?

I forwarded the messages to him and told him that it just wasn’t going to work out. And that he might want to put a password on his iPad.